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Thursday, July 22, 2010

Moving to a New Blog Location!

It has been an exciting year since launching the Little Black Dress Society last September to a few of my friends here in San Antonio.  Here's a little timeline:

  • Launched Sept 2009 with 14 women in San Antonio, TX
  • Started having LBD Society events to raise awareness for abused women 
  • Received the Trademark for Little Black Dress Society Spring 2010! Yeah!
  • The last 6 months have been spent organizing the foundation of LBD Society i.e., working with a design team on my website, writing the copy, and developing the materials for membership
  • June 2010 Launched 100 Dollars, 100 Donors, 100 Days Campaign to raise money for Kendall County Women's Shelter
  • July 2010 Website went live!
  • Press Releases went out 
  • Media exposure with Kens5
I want to thank all who have followed the blog whether on Blogspot, on Facebook, or Twitter.  This has been my way of letting you know about Little Black Dress Society and its mission.  We will continue to be on Facebook and Twitter so you'll keep getting the up-to-date news!

Now that the website is launched (which is beautiful and powerful!), I hope that you will continue to keep up with us and stay tuned into what the Little Black Dress Society is doing to impact women's lives touched by abuse.

We will feature our own Members stories.  Some may come from their own personal experiences and some will come from their passion to make a difference in society by being a part of this organization.

So please stay in touch with us.  Visit often at Little Black Dress Society and click on Amanda's Blog!

We will be waiting for you in our little black dresses!

Remember... Love, Believe, and Dream!  and NEVER STOP DANCING!!!



Thursday, July 8, 2010

Emotional Abuse

emotional abuse:Psychological abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse or mental abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that is psychologically harmful [citation needed]. Such abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationshipsbullyingchild abuse and in the workplace.

When people think of domestic abuse, they often picture battered women who have been physically assaulted. But not all abusive relationships involve violence. Just because you’re not battered and bruised doesn’t mean you’re not being abused. Many women suffer from emotional abuse, which is no less destructive.  In fact, it is harder for a woman to leave an emotionally abusive relationship because it isn't physical.  Most women who are emotionally abused feel trapped and depend on their partner.

I have spoken to a lot of women who have been emotionally abused.  They feel beaten down, unworthy and have very poor self-esteem. The scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse—sometimes even more so.  

Emotional abuse strips away at the core of a woman's heart and soul! 

 Regaining ones self-esteem is not an easy journey but it is possible.  Seek out a pastor, counselor, support group or network of friends. Do something for yourself that makes you feel good about who you are. Volunteer. Find a way to express yourself.   Don't surrender to isolation!  

The Little Black Dress Society is a service organization committed to ending the abuse of women.  Our desire is to inspire women to LOVE, BELIEVE AND DREAM again.
Stay informed and sign up for updates at Little Black Dress Society.

Amanda Graybill, Founder

Find out more about Emotional Abuse and seek Help

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Real Women, Real Stories, Real Help

It's easy to think abuse won't happen to you or to not have a concern because you haven't been affected by it.

Truth is, abuse happens to one in four women.

Chances are you sit by someone at church that's been abused, work beside a woman in the next cubicle, or share in the celebration of your child's graduation by a woman dying inside because of abuse.

I read this morning, "Look on victims of abuse as if what happened to them had happened to you."  Wow, that got my attention.  I hope it gets your attention as well.  How can we be so caught up by our own interest while women all over the world are crying out for help?

These are:

  • with REAL STORIES 

Please help us take a stand against the abuse of women one city at a time! 

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Launching One Hundred Dollars, One Hundred Donors, One Hundred Days!

We are excited to launch our first LBD Society campaign today. We are raising money for the Kendall County Women's Shelter in Boerne, Texas where there currently is no shelter. I am asking for your help to make this campaign a success to set an example for other Societies to follow in their cities!  Many small towns across the nation are without shelters.

When our website launches next month, women across the nation will be able to start a Society in their community and kick off their own campaign to build more shelters. 

Our goal for the One Hundred Dollars, One Hundred Donors, One Hundred Days campaign is to raise $10,000 in 100 days to donate to the shelter, slated to break ground in September 2010. We challenge 100 members, individuals, groups, or companies to match the original $100 given to me.

As the Founder, I was given a $100 bill and the challenge to make a difference in my community. I took that $100 and matched it with $100 of my own and now I'm challenging others to do the same. 

Women living in Kendall County have to go 30 or more miles to a shelter. In most cases this means uprooting their children from school and/or leaving their jobs. Because of the distance, the likelihood of them leaving an abusive situation is very slim. 

Get involved by printing, filling out and mailing this pledge card or donate online at the Kendall County Women's Shelter website. Make sure to mention LBD Society in the message field of the online form.

Join the challenge! Encourage your friends, co-workers, neighbors, and family to participate. Together we CAN make an impact on women’s lives touched by abuse!


Amanda Graybill, Founder 
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Monday, June 21, 2010

Coming Soon!

It's really happening!  Our website is scheduled to launch in July 2010!

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Why the Little Black Dress is So Important to Me?

I'v been asked why the little black dress is so important to me on numerous occasions.  It's a whole lot more than being in style or looking sexy!  When I received my first LBD, I was just 4 years old.  That dress is still with me hanging in a prominent place in my closet as a reminder of how the vision for LBD Society started.  My birthday is coming up in just over a week and that dress will be 51 years old!  Wow, I can't believe I just told you my age!  Oh well, with age comes freedom!    

I had no idea why that dress was so important to me until my adult years when I was working through some things with a counselor.  Given to me by a friend's mother, it became like a security blanket in many ways at a very tumultuous time in my life.   My home life had changed when my father became disabled and lost his job, our home, and our social status.  That is when the drinking started and my father's personality changed.  I found myself hiding to stay out of the way and covered my ears so I didn't hear the outburst of anger toward my mother.  The thing is, my father was a good man.  He just reacted to a bad situation the wrong way which led him to become something he was not.  

I believe that many men who are abusive, whether physically or verbally, are angry men.  Seeking help early on can save a marriage or relationship and save the children who are the recipients of the abuse as well.  An important lesson I have learned is this,"It is not my fault".  

If you are reading this and you are in an abusive relationship, remember, it is not your fault!  Seek help and encourage your spouse, partner, friend to seek help as well.  Being healthy spiritually, emotionally, and physically allows you to LOVE, BELIEVE, AND DREAM again!    

Go out and wear your LBD and live out your DREAM!

Amanda, Founder
Little Black Dress Society

Stay tuned in through FACEBOOK and watch for upcoming website launching in July!

Friday, June 11, 2010

Exciting Things in the Works!

We have been hard at work behind the scenes and great things are happening!

  • Little Black Dress Society is now registered with the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office
  • We will be implementing a non-profit in 2011, Little Black Dress Society Foundation
  • We have been working diligently with a reputable marketing firm to redesign our logo, build a professional website, develop our brand, and assist with social media.  We believe that we have chosen one of the best companies with a talented staff committed to our cause!
  • Our official website launch is slated to occur in July 2010
This has been all encompassing, but it will be well worth it in the end.  Once the website launches, women throughout the nation will be able to start their own Societies with their friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc. and begin impacting women's lives touched by abuse.

Watch for important updates, announcements, upcoming events as well as vital facts about abuse on Facebook at Little Black Dress Society.


Amanda Graybill, Founder